勇於走出心理困境

人的一生，“不如意常八九”，總有失意與困惑的時候。

事業的挫折，家庭的矛盾，人際關係的衝突等都是經常會碰到的，如不注意調劑疏泄，會導致內心矛盾的衝突，使自己陷入鬱恐，焦慮，悲痛等心理困境之中，對身心健康危害極大。

此時，外界的幫助固然重要，關鍵還是自我解救，因而應學會一些心理困境自救法。

迴避法

俗 話說惹不起咱躲得起，“躲”也就是迴避，雖簡單但有實效。當某些人和事，某些場合使你鬱鬱不樂，或即將火冒三丈，體驗到內心矛盾衝突時，應及時迴避，不在 導致心理困境的地方駐足，以免“觸景生情”，找一安靜處，靜默十分鐘，或聽聽音樂，散散步，都可分散注意力，淡忘煩惱，使內心趨於平靜。

自勉法

自 勉就是以積極的信念暗示自己，努力挖掘自己的優點與長處，而不是無意中把悲觀沮喪，挫折感放大，只有在不幸與失敗中奮起的人才能最終成大器。如貝多芬在雙 耳失聰，女友離他而去的殘酷情況下，沒有趴下，而是用心靈激情的迸發，留下不朽的樂章。在很多情況下，自勉能驅散憂鬱，克服怯懦，使自己恢復樂觀與自信。

自慰法

所 謂“想開點”就是自慰法，為自己找一種“合理”的解釋，“自圓其說”。例如“吃不著葡萄說葡萄酸”，雖是一種精神勝利法，但總比懊惱，沮喪強。也有許多 事，換一個角度看，不難發現其中的積極因素，正所謂“塞翁失馬，安知非福”，“失之東偶，收之桑榆”。但自慰總有些自欺欺人，常用也會防礙對社會的適應。

宣洩法

國 外某工廠一房子裡，怒氣沖衝的工作，對著橡膠塑的“經理”，拳打腳踢，破口大罵 ... ...。這不是瘋子發狂，也不是演戲，而是時下頗為流行的渲洩療法。渲洩有助於調理大腦皮質功能，對心理紊亂，壓抑感，反抗，破壞心理等治愈率頗高。可以 在適當地方大叫一番，痛哭一場，或是適當地發脾氣，都可以渲洩內心的鬱積，擺脫惡劣的心境。當然，渲洩應該是適度，可以讓對接受為前提。

傾訴法

心中的忿悶，悲傷等也可以向親友，甚至是不相識的人傾吐，相信對方在理解你此時的心境後會及時給予你善意的勸慰，也可以把心中的鬱積通過記日記，寫作等訴諸文字，在“一吐為快”後，可以排解出心中的忿悶，盡快走出心理的困境。

昇華法

把負性心理激起的能量引導到對社會，對已都有利的方面，確實難能可貴。如司馬遷遭宮刑而著“史記”，居里夫人在丈夫橫遭車禍的不幸後，用努力工作克制自己和悲痛，完成了鐳的提取，這跟一個人修養，覺悟密切相關，而且更需一顆奮發向上的心。

选择了你，我一定会等你.......

不爱就不要选择，爱了就要坚持。
真正的幸福是一点一点争取的，是一天一天积累的。
不要去伤害爱你的人，也不要让你爱的人受伤害。
成熟不是看你的年龄有多大，而是看你的肩膀能挑起多重的责任。
爱一个人要用心，诚心相待，真心交流，恒心相守。
不要计较太多的得与失，感情没有绝对的公平，也没有绝对的对错，要学会用一颗宽容的心包容对方的缺点与失误。
在一起是一种缘分，真的好珍贵，不要轻易让爱人哭泣伤心，好好珍惜在一起的每一分钟，美好的回忆应该留给快乐和欢笑。
无论遇到什么事情，不要轻易说分手，不要轻易放弃感情，下一站未必比她好。
相信你的爱人，不要总是怀疑她的诚意，亲密之余给彼此留一点自己的空间。
经常想念对方，哪怕她的坏，设身处地的多为对方着想，永远别让她的面孔变得陌生。
其实每个人一开始都不懂爱情，与爱人一起经历一些事情，甚至一起经历一些痛苦，才能变得成熟，才会懂得珍惜。
爱了就爱了，永远不要说后悔。只是一定要记住，让相爱的日子多一点欢乐，不要留下遗憾。
爱一个人是一件很幸福，又很辛苦的事。
我总是希望可以与我的爱人“执子之手，与子偕老”
所以我总是告诉自己：“选我所爱，爱我所选！！！既然我选择了，我也会用心的对待，我不想让我们彼此陌生，所以我用心的等待......
等你看过了外面的世界，玩够了，累了，卷了.......
在外面受到委屈的时候，你就回来吧......
我永远等着你！选了你，我一定会等你.......

马华101010特大事件

大家都为了马华101010特大事件而担心，马华在政治主流里，也让人民显得很没有安全感。不过，我希望马华101010特大事件后，大家都可以接受中央代表的决定。不要再为了争斗而忘了马华在人民社会的存在价值。

近来，很多人见到我都会问起关于翁蔡的事件，，我都会说‘我支持翁总的领导及决定！’。从马青出身的领袖，比较有把握重振马华，因为他本身清楚马华的前景应该如何去改革。

为什么？而你知道‘污点’又如何解释？

因为身为一位公众人物，道德行为将成为楷模，如污点领袖的行为，将影响整个组织，也影响年轻一代的健康发展。

蔡曾说他只需要中央代表恢复他的署理总会长而已，不过在特大的第一个提案中，就提到‘投翁总不信任票’。蔡的议程不单是恢复署理总会长而已，而且是说一套，做一套。

儒 家思想：修身、齐家、治国、平天下。这是几前年来无数知识分子的最高理想。如果无法修身，还有权利平天下吗？想像，如果现在给蔡赢了这场特大，那么证明很 多政治人物都认同不良行为是一种良好的楷模，那倒可以光明正大的搞婚外情，因为大家都大力赞同他的做法，并让他有机会重反他应该的署理总会长。你是否会支 持一个道德缺陷的领袖人物吗？

我认为我们的领袖如果是爱江山就该放弃美人（婚外美人）,爱美人（婚外美人）就该放弃江山。难道没有了蔡细历，马华就没有‘能人’了吗？

身为一位马华领袖，敢做敢当，对于PKFZ事件也不退缩。如翁只要官职，何必得罪高官权贵；如翁接受献金，大可不必张扬此事件，袋袋平安就好；如不足，还可以要求更多的献金，何必去挖掘PKFZ事件呢？像翁的这种领袖才是华裔社会所要求的领袖人物。

投给翁总是最佳的选择，要抱着‘不倒翁’的概念，让我们的中代表及领袖三思、三思。谢谢。

玻璃市州

马青亚楼区团秘书

旅遊了28國才知道的

旅遊了28國才知道的
1.到了中國，才知道只生一個孩子好。

2.到了臺灣，才知道罵祖宗(是中國豬)還可以面帶微笑。

3.到了香港，才知道明星都戴著口罩。

4..到了日本，才知道死不認帳的人(大屠殺)有時候還會很有禮貌。

5.到了韓國，才知道亞洲足球使上帝都差點瘋掉。

6.到了泰國，才知道看見漂亮妹妹先別慌著擁抱。

7.到了新加坡，才知道為什麼四面都是水，還向別人要。

8.到了印度，才知道多貴重的人都得給牛讓道。

9.到了印尼，才知道為什麼華人夜裏睡不著覺。

10.到了阿拉伯，才知道做男人是多麼的驕傲。

11.到了法國，才知道被人調戲還會很有情調。

12.到了西班牙，才知道被牛拱到天上還可以哈哈大笑。

13.到了南斯拉夫，才知道為什麼有人不願回到祖國的懷抱。

14.到了奧地利，才知道是個乞丐都能彈上一支小調。

15.到了瑞士，才知道開個銀行帳戶沒有十萬會被人恥笑。

16.到了丹麥，才知道寫個童話其實可以不打草稿。

17.到了義大利，才知道天天吃比薩臉上都可以不長膿包。

18.到了希臘，才知道迷人的地方其實都是破廟。

19.到了梵蒂岡，才知道在其境內任何地方開槍都可以打著羅馬的鳥。

20.到了美國，才知道不管是誰，亂嚷嚷都會中炮。

21.到了加拿大，才知道面積比中國還大的地方，人比北京還少。

22.到了巴拿馬，才? �道一�l河也代表了主權的重要。

23.到了巴西，才知道衣服穿得很少也用不著害臊。

24.到了智利，才知道火車在境內拐個彎也很難辦到。

25.到了阿根廷，才知道不懂足球會讓人暈倒。

26.到了南非，才知道隨時會被愛滋吻到。

27.到了撒哈拉，才知道節約用水的重要。

28.走遍非洲，才知道人吃人有時候也是一種需要...。

extra......
到了马来西亚，才知道牵手也会接传票！?

The Oxford Dictionary

Cigarette : A pinch of tobacco rolled in paper with fire at one end & a fool on the other.
Lecture : An art of transferring information from the notes of the Lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through the minds of either
Conference : The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present.
Compromise : The art of dividing a cake in such a way that everybody believes he got the biggest piece.
Tears : The hydraulic force by which masculine will-power is defeated by feminine water power
Dictionary : A place where success comes before work.
Conference Room : A place where everybody talks, nobody listens and everybody disagrees later on.
Classic : A book which people praise, but do not read.
Smile : A curve that can set a lot of things straight.
Office : A place where you can relax after your strenuous home life.
Yawn : The only time some married men ever get to open their mouth.
Etc. : A sign to make others believe that you know more than you actually do.
Committee : Individuals who can do nothing individually and sit to decide that nothing can be done together.
Experience : The name men give to their mistakes.
Atom Bomb : An invention to end all inventions.
Philosopher : A fool who torments himself during life, to be spoken of when dead.
Diplomat : A person who tells you to go to hell in such a way that you actually look forward to the trip.
Opportunist : A person who starts taking bath if he accident all falls into a river.
Optimist : A person who while falling from Eiffel tower says in midway "See I am not injured yet."
Miser : A person who lives poor so that he can die rich.
Father : A banker provided by nature.
Criminal : A guy no different from the rest....except that he got caught.
Boss : Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are early.
Politician : One who shakes your hand before elections and your confidence after.
Doctor : A person who kills your ills by pills, and kills you with his bills. ...

Salary RM3,000 per month can survive?‏

Very interesting.... read it on.
Somebody should get this to 'people on top'¡K

Let's do some simple calculations here.
In Malaysia, the average family income is RM3,000 /month (where father works, mother doesn't). I understand there are many families whose monthly income does not reach RM3,000, but, to make things simple, let's take RM3,000 as the figure. Ok lah, right?

Okay, let's start rolling with a family which has Papa, Mama, 1 daughter and 1 son.
Ngam-ngam¡K

color=blue size=5>Calculation starts...

Electricity and water bill: RM100
(No air-con, No home theatre, No water heater ¡K ok?)

Phone bill (Telekom): RM100

Meals for a happy family: RM775
(3 meals on
RM25/day, RM25 for 4 persons¡K?)

Papa makan / teh-tarik during working hrs: RM155
(RM5/day, RM5 ¡K can eat what?)

Car repayment: RM400
(A proton saga aeroback, 7 yrs repayment)

Petrol (living in city, traffic-jam): RM300
(go to work,
bring son to school, only can afford one car running)

Insurance: RM650
(kids, wife and myself)

House repayment: RM750
(low cost housing repayment for 30 yrs, retired still have to work to pay!)

Tuition:
RM80
(got that cheap meh? i don't think so)

Older children pocket money @ school: RM20
(RM1/day, eat bread?)

School fees: RM30
(enough ah?)

size=5>School books and etc: RM100
(always got extra to pay in school)

Younger children milk powder: RM50
(cannot have the DHA, BHA, PHA one, expensive)

Miscellaneous: RM100
(shampoo, rice, sauce, toilet
paper)

Oh wait!!! I have to stop here, so... No Astro, no movie @ cinema, no DVD, no CD, no online, cannot KFC, cannot McDonald, cannot go Park walk during weekend (petrol expensive), no chit chat on phone with grandparents, and etc....

Let's use a calculator to total up... WALAO EH! Shit! RM3,610 already¡K
EPF belum potong, income tax lagi........oledi RM3,610 ...

How to survive
lah tuan-tuan dan puan-puan sekalian ???

Our Deputy Prime Minister asked us to change lifestyle?
How to change? Don't eat? Don't work? Don't send children to school and study?

Besides that, I believe in Malaysia population, there are millions of rakyat Malaysia which still don't earn RM3,000/month!!!

What is this? Inilah Malaysia Boleh... Sorry... it should be Malaysians Boleh , because we're still alive and kicking!!

Our
politicians must be mad!!!!

WHAT A WIFE SAYS...AND MEANS

The wife says: You want
The wife means: You want

The wife says: We need
The wife means: I want

The wife says: It's your decision
The wife means: The correct decision should be obvious

The wife says: Do what you want
The wife means: You'll pay for this later

The wife says: We need to talk
The wife means: I need to complain

The wife says: Sure... go ahead
The wife means: I don't want you to

The wife says: I'n not upset
The wife means: Of course I'm upset you moron

The wife says: You're ... so manly
The wife means: You need a shave and sweat a lot

The wife says: Be romantic, turn out the lights
The wife means: I have flabby thighs.

The wife says: This kitchen is so inconvenient
The wife means: I want a new house.

The wife says: I want new curtains.
The wife means: Also carpeting, furniture, and wallpaper!

The wife says: I need wedding shoes.
The wife means: The other forty pairs are the wrong shade of white.

The wife says: Hang the picture there
The wife means: No, I mean hang it there!

The wife says: I heard a noise
The wife means: I noticed you were almost asleep.

The wife says: Do you love me?
The wife means: I'm going to ask for something expensive.

The wife says: How much do you love me?
The wife means: I did something today you're not going to like.

The wife says: I'll be ready in a minute.
The wife means: Kick off your shoes and take an hour nap.

The wife says: Am I fat?
The wife means: Tell me I'm beautiful.

The wife says: You have to learn to communicate.
The wife means: Just agree with me.

The wife says: Are you listening to me?
The wife means: [Too late, your doomed.]

The wife says: Yes
The wife means: No

The wife says: No
The wife means: No

The wife says: Maybe
The wife means: No

The wife says: I'm sorry
The wife means: You'll be sorry

The wife says: Do you like this recipe?
The wife means: You better get used to it

The wife says: All we're going to buy is a soap dish
The wife means: I'm coming back with enough to fill this place.

The wife says: Was that the baby?
The wife means: Get out of bed and walk him

The wife says: I'm not yelling!
The wife means: Yes I am! I think this is important!

In answer to the question 'What's wrong?'

The wife says: The same old thing.
The wife means: Nothing.

The wife says: Nothing.
The wife means: Everything.

The wife says: Nothing, really.
The wife means: It's just that you're an idiot.

The wife says: I don't want to talk about it.
The wife means: I'm still building up steam.